In life, every structure of what we go through has based mechanisms for us to grow through, to learn to be a better version of ourselves.
Unfortunately, some individuals tend to sway away from the logistic side of having a good, nourishing, loving, and fruitful relationship, life, or marriage.
From the downfall of some individuals in relationships that have been hit by untrusting issues.
Others do learn from mistakes through maturity to resolve issues and go forward to make themselves and things better.
Is that the reasoning aspects of some individuals not asking for forgiveness with the means, to not sway to past ways that caused the problem in the beginning, continues to be trampled by the wayside?
Some individuals think that it's belittling them and making them look weak, others believe that it's not for them to do, and some just abuse the concept cause to be forgiven.
There must be maturity in the picture to put the relationship or marriage back on a straight and healthy road, and both parties must be willing to participate in the cause.
Many people ask for forgiveness but then they somehow find themselves in worst sticky situations that could never be mended by trust, and that's the emotional abuse of the significant other's trusting ways.
Forgiveness in relationships is neutral, it's the trusting aspect that is the highlight of all relations, and the individual needs to be worth trusting.
I do understand forgiving someone but when it gets too numerous to count, that is the time to pack up and go.
Maturity can help others, if they are willing to see the relationship in a better spotlight, to not only see themself but see their significant other.
We are all sensitive beings but others are more sensitive than some, as they hurt more quickly, and the hurt can be prolonged for days, weeks, months years, or even a lifetime.
And for that, we must equip ourselves with the knowledge of not venturing unto unchartered grounds that would jeopardize a loving and good relationship.
There should be a knowing of what your significant other can stand for and cannot.
The knowledge, of knowing each other's likes and dislikes must be developed in the relationship.
Everyone has needs but the wayward needs of others must not be pushed to sabotage self, relationship, or marriage.
And in relationships or marriages when the right significant other is found, old ways of indulging in worthless methods and avenues must be dropped.
Sharing time is good for a relationship, it helps build the two together, and communication works for all those willing to listen, and it's good to have listening ears.
We can all ask to be forgiven for an error that was made but the acceptance is not a prolonged forgetfulness, it just means that the circumstance has been removed, and the situation is now put in a position where the person can now truly prove themselves to be trustworthy again.
The trust that was broken must be built back and the communication factor must be aligned, to get the wholesomeness back into the relationship or marriage.
We can forgive but we will never forget what others are capable of, so in terms, the said individual will have to prove themself so that trust can be again gathered.
If anyone is in a good relationship, that has been slayed by a movement of decisions that was not wise.
By all means, try to protect your relationship or marriage, good people are hard to find especially the ones that you have so gracefully bonded to.
Giving up should not be the first option, I am not telling anyone to stay in any abusive relationship that is body harming.
In all factual abusive relations, the person being abused should always try to get out of it.
I am talking about good and healthy relationships that just got slayed by a mishap.
Good relationships or marriages can be handled and resolved by good communication and maturity.
Mishaps should not be the kill pill for good relationships or marriage, there should always be talks and commitments to get it back on track to make it better than it was.
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