Being Single-Why Are You Single And Why Haven't You Found Someone?

Some individuals might question men and women about their single life, with questions like, Why are you single and why haven't you found someone?

And you know these questions can be easily asked but If you put yourself in those individuals that remain single because of some toxic relationship you would surely understand the stance for them being single and why sometimes they don't want to respond to the questions.

Not everyone wants to go talk about bad memories of a toxic relationship and they don't want to go through life stuck with someone that does not mean them well.

Some individuals just like to show a true worth of independence standing alone.

Yes!  Everyone is different and each one does have their own story to tell of why they have based their lives on the single side.

And it's for them to know when it's time to speak about it to someone and to change that status of the single life to ‘‘ I have found someone’’.

We find some individuals from a young age idealizing a fairy-tale wedding to a partner a wonderful person, a prince charming or princess, alluring that will love them and together they would have a happy life.

And meeting someone wonderful and living in a happy life does happen and can happen, as it only takes meeting the right individual.

I see this way as an individual being aware of the consciousness of knowledge of understanding themselves and what they want.

Does everyone want a life of happiness with someone who lovingly and genuinely care? Who doesn't?

And it is not a bad thing when you find a man or woman that is looking out for themselves in life, who knows the true elements that they want in a mate.

And some individuals do put them self on the single status for years until they do find that special person.

As I said it's diverse of happenings that make some individuals single and I will go through the single life with you.

Living the single life has many names like being in seclusion, laying dormant, a loner, putting yourself on the shelf and so much more can be mentioned.

And the percentage of individuals that has a single status carry it for some reason sometimes known only to them, the individual that they were involved with And those around when it happened.

Some individuals stay quiet as some after being in a relationship that didn't work out, just keeps to themselves in a quiet stance just hurting waiting, watching and monitoring as time pass them by.

Yes!  There are asked constantly by friends, workmates or others about their single life status and sometimes friends or others might want to engage in helping out with setting up some with dates and some do pass on the offers.

You see! It's for that single individual to decide if they are ready to go on from the proceedings that helped put them in a single stance, to go on dates as to get the privilege to move on.

And as these questions Why are you single and why haven't you found someone? continue to be asked they seemed to be a common question asked by many and there is diverse of answers of delivery and today I will go through some.

I did my own research for this book as I was able to get a deep and direct insight into some individual's lives as each answer from recipients was the blueprint of content that made this book to materialized.

Mentioned are some ways of why some individuals remain single and why some haven't moved on.

And with my opinion of contents of delivery, I will go through each answer as to clarify each field.

So many individuals in societies in this world find themselves single and some try passages of dating.

And with dating, some put themselves out there like bait on a line, and sometimes the results can be beneficial and sometimes it can be horrible and stressful.

And with two of the most direct important questions being asked by many as some get ready to start off a date, you will find ears paced as they listen for live dictation of delivery in passages that convey why some are of a single status.

Yes! The questions are easily asked by some and yet some are reluctant to answer them.

When It comes down to the questions being answered there is diverse of ways that find some people single and  I will go through some of them.

Some Reasons Why Some Individuals Are Living The Single Life.

1) some tend to keep a single status because of multiple or a once bad relationship and they find it hard to trust anyone and move on.

2) Some stay single as they mind is more comfortable and at peace because they don't have a partner around them stressing them out with their doings etc.

3) Some said that they are still in love with their children's mother or father and that they find it hard to move on.

4) Some say that they just don't like to be tied down.

5) Some really voice their approval about having different companions as in sex partners as to benefit from the selection of activities methods and the feelings of experiences from different partners

6) Some see themselves as witless and don't want to be unfaithful to hurt anyone.

7) Some are not willing to try because they don't have the energy to waste.

8) Some say that they have the unlucky timing to get the right time for their other, in the beginning of the relationship they got time for the person, but they did not always get time to spend with them, they said time was endless but not cumulative and they couldn't spend all they time with someone so that caused problem.

9) Some say that everyone they seemed to fall in love with doesn't seem to be committed and they are still looking but they are not forcing anything.

10) Some individuals just decide that it's all about business and being busy with work, a relationship with someone isn't possible.

11) Some want to have the independence to make sure that self is secure and grounded and their job or studies are always the main important aspects of their lives.

12) Some just prefer to be single and live their life free as they don't want to have a committed relationship with someone that will limit them from a life of a free pleasure of ways.

And some individuals reading this book might say, ‘‘Hey this is me! Or to someone else say, ‘‘That is you!

And whatever the reason is for anyone to stay single, that individual is the only one that can change their minds and decide when the time has come fir them to take themselves off the single status and go meet someone.

As I always say, ‘‘ You are the only person that can make you move and when It is the right time you will get up and go.

I can deliberate on these reasons and give my opinion but as always it's up to the individual with the single status that has the will to decide for themselves.

Well, I'm no baby and I had some very bad relationships in my life and the longest of twelve years took me near six years on the single status to recover as I give myself time to heal and try meeting someone new.

I would not say that it's easy trying to move on from bad relationships because it's not, you tend to have trust issues and you question yourself about another person that may try to show interest.

And you do wonder if they will do the same thing, and of course, you always want to protect your heart so you find yourself staying away or pushing anyone away that might show interest to you.

As your thoughts are far when it comes to looking to meet someone new.

But You know what?  Eventually, you might end up changing your mind because the way I see it, you can not just base the bad experiences that happened in past relationships on future ones, just learn from them get stronger and move on.

Everyone is different and everyone likes to display different characters of themselves and in relationships, that is why it's better to really get to know a person before you really get seriously deep into them.

Even if you have to do some private investigation of your own to ask around to find out what the person is all about, this might seem strange to some but if you want to go dip in the ocean you need to find out how deep it is if you get what I mean.

For me after what I went through I will tell anyone else, that if you have a partner that is abusive please don't get blinded with the ‘‘ I love you!  Sorry, I wouldn't do it anymore or it wouldn't happen again’’ because it will!

And you need to understand and realize that Love doesn't abuse anyone, it is individuals with unstable minds that do.

And for those individuals single because they want they mind comfortable and they don't want to have to worry about they mate outings etc.

Well, this can go so many ways because if you have a mate and you do not trust them please tell me! Why are you with them? It makes no sense.

Anyone that has a mate that they don't trust and still resides in the relationship is just calling trouble on themselves.

If you have to be wondering where they are with whom and what they are doing well hun! That is not a relationship, that is a torture chamber.

Those kinds of relationships are definitely toxic and a no! for me and it should be for you as well.

Individuals that is fully focused on work studies and getting themselves grounded well, that's a good thing to do as you will be able to handle yourself in the world.

And you never know when the time comes that you've achieved all that you wanted then maybe you will decide on changing the single status as always the choice is yours.

And this way comes from very determined individuals that really know what they want and Yes! They do go out there and get it and when the right time comes they might or might not find someone

Now, this thing of canceling your life boundaries because you're still in love with your child or children's mother or father well this can't be good sometimes.

Yes! There is always a bond between individuals that conceive children with another but it also depends on what the relationship and the individual were all about.

You know as always so much individual get confused with lust and love and they never seemed to know the difference.

Obsession will also come into play in this scene as some individuals that are still in love with their child mothers or fathers are just obsessed with the way they look, what they do, how they perform, what they can supply or how they can be controlled.

If you had a good man or woman and you broke up because of infidelity well why are you still in love with them, most likely if you go back to that individual the same thing might happen with someone else.

And the memories of that infidelity with just brainwash your thoughts and, to tell the truth putting yourself through that again isn't worth it.

Isn't your life worth more than being used, abused and thrown aside by some partner that just want gameplay?

Your life, heart, mind, body and soul is not an arcade so Why would you let someone play with them?

You may be in love with your ex but the reality question to be asked, ‘‘Is your ex still in love with you?

The ones that are single because they don't want to be tied down, well what I can tell you is that you can be in a relationship with someone that you trust and trust you.

If you're going to be the one that likes to do whatever you want, go out and come in whenever you want and doesn't want anyone in your ears correcting or asking you questions.

Well staying single is the best thing for you, as you wouldn't be able to stress anyone out.

You see it will never work if you have a serious man or woman that is committed to and wants a real relationship, there will definitely be conflict about something that you do.

I know that I did this research for the book but one answer really left me feeling disgusted with the individual.

Yes! Disgusted by an individual that like being single because he can have multiple partner and grades the experience of the sexual orientation of experiences.

And in these days with so much happening on the health scene, Wow! That's sick!

All I can say is that it's not okay just to be single to have a sex orgy with life.

And by the time that you're finished with your life of sexcapades, who would want you then after you've been washed, wasted and used up?

Don't even mention the reputation that will be spreading what woman or man in their right mind will want you then even if you decide that you want to settle down?

I don't think that a good partner will suit you because the ways of sexual orientation that you're accustomed to might not meet your partner's preference and criteria, so, of course, someone will be disgusted and move out and on.

Now staying single and calling yourself witless that really sounds like a low esteem of way, why would you call yourself foolish, hey! You're not leaving room for anyone.

Not that anyone should be calling you witless,  but What they should be doing is to help you raise your low self-esteem to the high self-esteem to feel good about yourself.

Yes?! A way that a true-hearted individual will display as they motivate a man or woman in need of self-help.

And anyone that belittles themselves really needs help in the self-improvement department, before they can access a relationship with someone.

If you're calling yourself this what will you call or say to your mate if you do get one?

What I can tell individuals with this way is to, IMMEDIATELY GET HELP!

The single individuals that want to remain single because they don't want to be unfaithful to anyone, well at least you're looking out for some other than yourself, and that is a good thing.

You already know what you are capable of and you don't want to cause anyone hurt harm or pain and that's welcoming.

Individuals that don't have the time to waste on relationships well I do understand what you mean.

Having a relationship with someone just take patience, time a strong heart and mind.

As well as energy from you with an effort of taking them out talking to them, and the long time that you spend in the relationship months maybe years that is a whole lot of energy being used there.

And if you don't want to be in a relationship that wastes your energy, well! I just hope that you're using it on meaningful positive things.

The individual with unlucky timing, to tell the truth, it's not the time that is the problem it's you if you're in a relationship and you are not aware or have the common sense to see that you're not acknowledging your mate because you spend all the time working even when you leave work and should not be working.

Well something or someone is really messed up, Yes! Everyone wants to achieve things in their life and have success and finances to do the necessary things.

But when a partner is involved in your life you can not just put them on the back burner and ignore them because of work,  if you didn't want to be in a relationship why did you start with one?

It's common sense that individuals having partners as workaholic always has issues, at times, the partner will complain, and when they see that nothing is being done about it.

It ends up sometimes with the partner getting involved with someone else or they might just decide to leave the relationship and call it quits

The decision of calling it quits I definitely understand because no one in their right mind wants to be in a relationship to get ignored because their mate is too busy with work day in and day out and don't spend time with them.

Staying single because you are an individual that cannot work out your priorities with your partner because you are a workaholic, isn't a reason for being single it's a reason to check yourself and your life to see what you are doing wrong with it.

Individuals that fall in love with others that don't fall in love with them, well it seems that you have a soft heart and you need to keep it harden a bit, protected and aware.

First thing is that you shouldn't even be in a relationship with someone if they don't return the same feelings, that will be just gameplay.

Most likely if the individual doesn't love you they are just using you for some element of products etc that you supply to them, whether money, transportation or financings something of theirs.

Don't just get attracted to individuals because of how they look, please stop with the lust, that does not love, and maybe you will be able to stop hurting.

Anyone that meets someone and starts a relationship with them, then to realize that no love is share showered or shown from them.

Some way down the line you should get red flags warning you about something that is not right.

 You should be able to recognize how they are reacting towards you emotionally, physically, verbally and mentally.

 You should easily be able to pick up that their feelings and intention towards you and the relationship are not the same as yours.

Unless you're blinded by something else which maybe their body or you're getting lied to with sweet words, I'm just saying!

In a vast world of societies, I do believe that there is someone to keep someone's company, someone that you can really trust to have a committed relationship with.

No matter what experience you went through the time might come when you as a single person decides that you need a committed companionship.

And it isn't a sin to be single nor it isn't a sin to want someone that you can spend time with and enjoy as yours.

Not in a controlling way, but in a way that shows interest in who you have as a person that you know shows and carries the same committed love as you.

I can relate to some of these answers distributed by some on the single scene, and Yes! After a harsh relationship, I can say that it's sometimes tough to get yourself back out they,  for, some it isn't easy.

It took me over five years to get myself settled and still I wasn't in the frame of mind to see anyone new, as I just wanted to concentrate on my children myself and getting us comfortable and safe and away from any more drama.

And Yes! I had this thought of,  ‘‘ If I should start dating!

I was very hesitant and the guys that I saw really made it easy for me as the way some approach me only give themselves thumbs down.

I had eight dates from the time I came off my over five years of being single life and this is three years after and I still carry the single status.

You know!  Having the strength to walk away from a bad relationship is good.

For your health, mind your growth and going forward,  as you the individual will make yourself a better stronger person than you were before.


You get to engage yourself in your children and yourself, and you get to do things that you never did before when you were in a relationship.

Sometimes being single brings clarity to your life, you can actually think without the remittance of a relationship of noise.

You are shown through your experience of relationships to be the stronger person than you were before and move on.

Yes!  It does take a time to heal from all that you've endured, but after hurting the healing and real true living should start.

Do the right things and go through life a more conscious person than before.

As your experience will be your learning tools the stepping stones that you will carefully walk on through life.

And whenever that time comes for you to meet someone you will know, as you used your experience as your guide to lead you to see the right person for a meaningful relationship.

I will tell all single individual out there who finds themselves single because of a bad relationship, to never give up on yourself, you have your freedom, life, and children, so just move on and enjoy your life the best positives ways you can.

It does not make any sense making yourself unhappy just look at it as things happen for a reason and some of the reasons might not be revealed to you but at the right time they will.

So just take the opportunity of being single to enjoy your life, you deserve happiness so Let it start with you making yourself happy.
You know I always say that no one can make you happy

Happiness is being emotionally stable and if anyone wants to input on that happiness and they are worthy to they can.

It's always up to you to make you happy the best ways you can :)

And being single isn't about being in a lonely single state of sadness and bewilderment.

No, it's not! Being single is you being alive as you see yourself and your life in perspective ways.


Being single is not a sin.

It's just a way for you to engage yourself in meaningful aspects of ways for you to identify yourself and get to know you your worth and what you want out of life.

When You were in your teenager ages and single, your thoughts were about being happy with someone loving.

Well, your heart already knew what it wanted, for you and after those teenage years, you may have a relationship that you had or have to move on from.

 And you will notice that the voice of Your truthful heart has not changed.

As our heart will be saying the same thing,  and that is to find someone that is genuinely loving that will treat you right add happiness to your life and love you for you.

A true heart always speaks what is truth and it's embodied in so many elements of care.

Everyone should first love being around themselves.

You have to always love being with you and love your own company, whether you are in or out of a relationship the first person you should love and respect are yourself if you can't who else will?

Connect to yourself and gain an understanding of what you really want, know your worth and what you want for you.

Try entertaining yourself and make yourself happy, when you were in a relationship you used to entertain others and make them happy and comfortable so now it's s time to first start with you.

Don't dwell on the bad memories.

If you are the minority that is single because of a past toxic relationship well, as you can see that I've highlighted the past for you because that is exactly where it is, in the past and now you are in the future so Move on.

Dwelling on the past relationship and what you had to endure will just make you all bitter and weak and now is not the time for that.

You already went through it so learn from it used it as tools to build yourself as you make yourself stronger to know what elements to look for the next time.

Stop holding yourself back.

Yes! Pain does take the time to heal and anyone that came out of a toxic relationship does need time to heal.

And after that healing has taken place you need to stand up stronger than you were before and try to make you happy as you move on and try some real true living.

Yes! You were in a relationship that you thought would make you happy and it didn't so try making yourself happy you now have time to change things the ways you want.

Don't ever hold yourself back because now that you are single you can do so many meaningful things to help you and family progress.

Stop idealizing your ex

Yes! Some of you might have had an ex that was a Hollywood star-studded look type, but now Is not the time to be drooling and looking at an appearance.

I hope that you know that it's not always about the package but what is inside, and I'm talking about the heart, No funny thoughts people!

Your life is not over.

Being single is not pushing a banner or billboard in your face that is telling you that your life is over.

 You should be seeing them saying ‘‘ My new life has just begun ’’.

And if you really listen to your true heart you would hear it telling you that, your new life has now begun so It's time for you to turn a new page and proceed.

Never ever think that because you are not in a relationship with anyone, that your life is done or you are missing out.

You are not missing out, you are and will be gaining, you now have a world of passages at your feet to do and go where benefits you.

Choose Your Friends Wisely.

Being single as you come out of a relationship everyone wants to be your friend and the friends that you thought that you had might stay away.

Being single isn't about having an individual in your life that will make attempts attacks on you about the relationship that you left, you don't need any more pressure you don't a sad story rewind in your face you don't need bad memories rising from the grave.

Those individuals that left you well just look at it as you've gotten rid of all the meaningless luggage and you're now doing meaningful.

So if you have any individual in your life, whether it is friends family or others that are going to put you and push down,  inside of pulling you up and making you a better stronger person with motivation aspects to move on to better, well maybe it's time to divorce your friends and others  as well, you don't need any drama leave it for the television.

Meet new people.

There are millions of individuals out there that can relate to what you had to endure individual with an independent listening ear and strong shoulders that you can trust to lean on.

Everyone is not the same there are good people out there, you just need to find them.

Malicious and selfish individuals that you once trust might have broadcast your business on the word web to friends and family for viewing, but You should not let that stop you from really trusting someone that can help.

There is and will be someone that you will be able to trust and that person will come along at the right time.

I'm single and it's not bad as I'm more focused and more creative, I have high goals for myself, my time is now my own and I know how to spend and direct my money the way it should.

I don't need to compromise with anyone,  and I have more time for my family and myself, and I'm doing things I have never done before that adds to my happiness.

I feel more at peace and happy because I'm happy with myself and I know my worth and know how I should be treated.

Individuals think that others make them happy but they don't, it's the elements that the individual brings that will add to your happiness, and it's always up to you to make yourself happy.

People that come into our lives just disturbed elements of themselves in it whether its happiness sadness or other.

So we, in turn, need to be emotionally stable to understand what is being distributed, how to deal with it and if we want to deal with it, whether long term, short term or not at all.

Sadness doesn't help us, bitterness, abuse, selfishness, pride, lies or hate.

Happiness does, love does and anyone that distributes and contributes these kinds of genuine elements of ways is worthy to add happiness to anyone's life.

Will I stay single? Well, it's always up to me to decide and when I find that true essence of elements in someone, maybe they would be the one that I find worthy to add to my happiness, only time will tell :)